Relationship Advice

A friend of mine needs to get out of a relationship that she's in. I've known this since the beginning, but she's seemed happy enough that I never said anything. I probably should have, because now I feel guilty seeing the way he's hurt her.

Today, he asked her to come over to his house. She said no because she twisted her ankle. He got mad and said that they were through; that the house thing was a test. No guy should ever toy with a girl's emotions that way. It is wrong, selfish, and jerk-ish. A couple weeks ago, he did something similar. He broke up with her and started talking to some girl on MySpace. Then he told her it was all a joke. When he had broken up with her then, I had talked to her. She somehow got some sense knocked into her and said that she would just wait on God. And then he says he wants her back. And she goes back to him.

Today, I got a text message that disturbed me: "If I take 40 oxycontin will I live still?" I convinced her not to take it. Then I really let her know what I thought about the whole thing. This is what I said to her:

If I were you, I'd be over with him. He's being a jerk. Last week (or whenever it was) when he said it was over...didn't you say that he said it was all a joke? Well, he had no right doing that. No right to toy with your emotions like that. And again with this thing today--a "test"--again, he's just toying with your emotions. In short, he's being a jerk. And another thing---you say that when you guys go out, you end up paying most of the time. He should be the one paying most of the time. It's okay if you pay once in a while, but he shouldn't expect you to pay most of the time. If he can't afford to take you out, he can't really afford to have a girlfriend. It's probably best if he isn't in a relationship right now. It would probably be best if you weren't in a relationship right now either.
Do you even remember how you ended up in this relationship? You were mad at [can't remember his name] because he had another girl. So you went out with the intent of making him jealous. That's not a good reason to get into a relationship.
Remember what you said last time he broke up with you? You said you should just wait on God. That is what you should be doing. This is really just a push in that (the right) direction.

I think she may have finally gotten it. I told her to let him go, and she said she was. Of course, that is what she said last time too. We'll just have to wait and see.

Christmas Cheer

Being healthy is not easy around the holidays. I’ve decided that I can have a week to eat whatever I want. I will still be as active as I normally am, if not more active.

This has been my third week without a riding lesson. I can’t stand it. However, I did manage to go ice skating last Friday with a couple friends and again today with my niece. I will probably be going again this Friday.

I need to figure out other ways to be physically active. Gym memberships are too expensive and it’s too cold to go for a walk outside.

I’ve lost about ten pounds, mainly through just being more active. I haven’t made that many adjustments to my diet, though I know I need to.

See more progress on: be healthy

Trying Harder

In effort to do this, I will be making all my 43T posts from this point out also appear on my blog, http://awingedvictory.blogspot.com/. I started that blog back in September, and made one entry to start it, made the second entry today. I will try harder.

See more progress on: Keep my blog up to date

I Forget

I forget too much. Much too much. I make an account someplace and forget about it. *sigh* I'll have to try harder this time. I keep much better track of my Facebook and 43Things. Hmm, speaking of 43T, I can add my entries there to here when I make them. I shall have to try that, if for nothing else, just to see what it looks like.

'Ello!

Where to begin? This is a semi-new thing for me. I've made a blog before, in fact, I've done two, but they both numbered one entry each. I'm hoping to do a little more with this one.

Just so you know, I am a college student at a community college. I am a Christian. I love animals and books. My laptop is probably cooler than yours. I have five brothers, one sister, two nieces, and four nephews. I love them all very dearly. I write quite a bit and am a grammar nazi (though I can't claim my grammar as being perfect, far from it, in fact). I love music, especially rock. Especially British rock. In fact, I kind of have a thing for British stuff. Other than my iTunes library (which has a grand total of 24 American songs, with the other 205 being British), a good number of the books on my bookshelf, most of my favorite authors, and most of my favorite movies and actors happen to be British. Not quite sure why this is. I haven't figured it out myself. (If I do, I'll let you know.) Anyway, back to the American: me! I really like making graphics on my computer. I use GIMP (I'd love to get Photoshop, it's just too expensive) and my Wacom tablet. I also really like to do HTML. I don't know why that is. I guess because it's sort of like doing logic problems, and I really like those. I have two dogs (German Shepherds), a cat, a parakeet, and five sugar gliders. I would love to have a horse, but I don't have one (yet!). I take riding lessons every week. I ride English. (Does that fall under my infatuation with British stuff?) I really don't like Western. Western saddles hurt my butt and are too confiding. I really like jumping. It's a bit like flying, especially when the horse goes to canter right after the jump. It seems like I'm beginning to ramble a bit too much, so I think I'll quit. Besides, there's really too much to know about me to tell you in one post. Even if I could and did do that, then what would be the purpose of this blog?

And now, my sugar gliders are awake and wanting food, so I guess I will have to feed them.